Reconnect Therapy Program
Childhood Trauma Therapy For A Person In A Couple.
You might be feeling an unexplainable and persistent sense of confusion, fear, withdrawal, and unhappiness.
These feelings might show up in your professional or personal life, affecting your performance and relationships.
Maybe you get really attached to others, even accepting abuse or harmful behavior from them. Or, you might emotionally check out when things feel too intimate, or there is conflict.
When it comes to romance, you might find it really challenging to be vulnerable, or maybe, you’ve figured it’s safer to find someone you can easily control.
Your suffering might remind you of your childhood and how you were treated by your parents or primary caregiver - the way they hurt each other, or you. You may remember being hit, shouted at, ignored, insulted, or watching parents fight through addictions.
You’re realising that what you always wanted was to feel loved, connected, and safe.
Perhaps, if you have your own children, you're committed to giving them the kind of safety and unconditional love you never recieved.
You might still be trying to rebuild or repair your relationship with your own parents, to no avail - they still aren’t giving you want you long for.
So, you distract yourself as best you can from the hurt… but the impact it’s having on so many aspects of your life is unavoidable.
Things have to change.
What you feel is 100% real and valid, and many adults deal with similar things.
If your childhood was hurtful in one or more ways, you've likely tried many things to forget.
You’ve probably even tried to forgive, ignore, move on, put the past in the past. But the impact the arguments, abuse, criticism, and neglect you endured are still impacting you today.
You may have turned to food, sex, religion, fitness, or any number of things to try to cover over what you’re experiencing.
You’ve probably read books, meditated, gone to therapy, focused on your career, and maybe even started your own family in hopes that something will make the sadness and fear go away. But this hasn’t worked.
Your romantic relationships aren’t a safe space, because they tend to elicit all your childhood stuff, even though they don’t mean to. Having that stuff in your current relationship feels messy, and relationships are already hard enough.
You want to learn to love yourself, and how to really receive the kind of love you crave, but you don’t really know how to start, let alone changing things long-term.
Why haven’t your efforts to get over this stuff worked? Why are you still suffering from things that happened so long ago?
There's one core reason that what you've tried hasn't worked.
The reason is because none of the things you’ve tried have actually healed the inner child part of you that went through all that trauma and abuse.
The child in you - the part of you that experienced all of that - still feels and lives the pain of your past every day of your adult life.
Even if you’ve thought about your childhood, and can rationalise your way through what you experienced, what you likely haven’t been able to do is consciously experience your inner child as a part of you that is present with you in the here and now.
All the things you’ve done up until this point have been coping strategies, not healing strategies. They’ve helped you avoid or minimise the pain, but doing so hasn’t helped you heal the pain.
What you’ve done so far has kept the full and complete YOU from being expressed - the you that comes from an adult who’s inner child has healed from the pain, and trauma; the you that comes from an inner child who has learned to be carefree and truly alive, who is loved unconditionally, fulfilled, and energetic, who can guide you into happiness and wholeness as an adult.
It’s the child in you who was neglected, hurt, and suffered trauma that is causing you to face the anxiety, confusion, anger, negative thoughts, and unhappiness today.
As long as your inner child is denied and left unhealed, your present experience will be a diminished, false version of yourself.
So then, what can you do to heal your inner child and start to recover from your childhood trauma?
There are three core principles of support necessary and fundamental to break free of the suffering you experience today, because of the suffering you experienced as a child.
Three core principles so you can feel more authentic, in control, and present in your life as an adult with healthy relationships:
Love and patience.
Let's take these one at a time.
Love & Patience
Your inner child is hurt, and needs tremendous love and patience from you - the kind of love and patience that you never got from your parents or primary caregiver. This is your opportunity to learn how to provide that for yourself.
Learning how to bring unconditional love to your inner children will help you attune to them.
Your patience will help to build trust with your inner children, so they can reveal their needs for healing.
Learning how to bring this kind of love and patience to your inner children gives you the keys to express these things to your adult self every day.
Because your childhood environment wasn’t safe in various ways, it’s vital that you create an environment of safety with you today. Safety is required for the inner child part of you to open up, be vulnerable, to share what is needed, and guide you towards healing.
This safety isn’t dependent upon anyone else - only you.
As you learn how to create this safe environment, it will open up entirely new worlds of possibility for you.
This is big work - it’s revolutionary to feel safe within, to be able to trust yourself entirely, to be confident in your abilities, to understand how to set healthy boundaries, and live into your values - so the real you can be re-birthed!
Once you have a loving, trusted, safe relationship with your inner child, you have the opportunity to discover your inner parent. This is where you become the loving, healthy, strong, kind, attentive parent who responds generously to the needs at hand. This is where you learn to support the inner child part of you in remaining safe, happy, and healed.
Learning to reparent yourself is wildly important.
It’s from this skill that you develop a healthy relationship with yourself - where the true, authentic you can become fully expressed - the you who is happy, fearless, aligned, and understands how to do healthy relationships and live your best life.
Applying these three core principles effectively requires specific guidance, support, and hand-holding along the way.
I can assist you in meeting, learning about, and loving your inner child.
I can support you in learning how to connect with your inner child, listen, work through past pain, understand needs, what it needs to feel loved, nurtured, and protected.
And, I can support you in learning how to re-integrate a healthy inner child into your every day adult life so you can be who you know you’re meant to be.
I am happy to introduce you to:
Reconnect: A Therapy Program For Adults In Romantic Relationships Who Experienced Childhood Trauma
A thirteen month journey to transform the way you feel about yourself, love, intimacy and relationships.
This is a one-on-one 58 week intensive childhood trauma psychotherapy program.
In this program, you will be supported to get in touch with those things that are hidden under your ‘grown-up’ personae, so you can recover from childhood wounds and become whole.
You will be supported to let go of any limiting beliefs, negative relationship scripts, trauma in your childhood, feelings of powerlessness, and low self-esteem that are blocking you from having the self-love, relationships and life you dream of.
Through this program you will end up being able to skillfully:
Know who you ‘really’ are and love that person.
Have a relationship fostered in unconditional consistent love, respect and safety with your adult self and inner child.
Figure out your boundaries and values and how to articulate these clearly and assertively so you are looking after yourself and your inner child regardless of the situation you are in.
Understand what genuine intimacy is as you know your authentic self and can identify which people are healthy/not healthy for you and your inner child to be around.
Feel ‘wholeness’ and know your purpose as you listen to yourself.
Experience emotional and physical well-being as you are attuned to your body and inner-self.
Here are somethings the training, psychotherapy and coaching with me will reveal to you:
How to talk to your inner child and be guided by it.
Identify who hurt you, when and why.
How to deal with and learn from the pain of the past so it no longer sabotages your present life.
The relationships you have in your life past/present that mirror your painful childhood relationships.
Why you have stopped your inner child from coming out, talking to you and saving you from harmful situations.
Why you don’t want to be vulnerable in your relationships and may close-down or become anxious with your partner.
What your inner child looks and sounds like.
The key parents the inner child needs and how to activate them so it can get the love it always wanted.
When it isn’t appropriate for the inner child to appear in your daily life.
How to use the honesty and ‘realness’ of your inner child to guide you in relationships, work situations, etc.
How to change your self-image so you are being your authentic self.
Identify your conflict style and others, and how to develop language skills to articulate your needs clear. articulate clearly what you need to create win-win scenarios in your relationships.
What your personal beliefs are and how you now want to be treated.
How to no longer feel alone, lonely and isolated even if you have lots of friends or a family of your own.
Discover the shadow aspects of yourself and embrace them to create wholeness.
The Reconnect Therapy Program™ will help you to:
Forgive yourself and encourage you to change any unhealthy behaviours you had in the past which you used to get love and play themselves out in your current relationship.
Forgive the people in your past who hurt you, but not to collude with their unhealthy behaviour towards you if you are still in relationship with them.
Set boundaries so you do not allow yourself to be manipulated or abused.
Identify your personal values and what’s important to you and the qualities you want reflected in the people around you.
Reclaim your childlike feelings of wonderment, aliveness, creativity and innocent fun.
Experience real unconditional love, that will be present with you for the rest of your life.
Reset your life and begin anew as your inner child is being parented in a loving, supportive, consistent way, which helps the adult in you feel confident, secure and grounded.
Feel more connected to your partner (if they are supportive of you changing), as you are no longer projecting your childhood issues onto them or parenting them. You are seeing them as a healthy equal, who has autonomy and a right to their own opinions, who can look after themselves just like you can.
Be a healthy adult who genuinely loves him/herself/their self.
Create win-win relationships and situations based on equality and respect.
See your parents as real people who may be ‘flawed’ and know how to interact with them so you are not triggered, defensive, or acting inauthentic.
Know what people you do or don’t want in your life anymore, as they can’t deal with you being healthy.
Listen to your inner-child and trust what they say about people or situations and follow through on the guidance they give you.
Become a better parent, even if you already have children, as you will learn how to parent yourself beautifully and healthily.
What Others Have Experienced?
During the pandemic, when we were all in lock-down, although having worked as a psychotherapist for many years I decided to work in a specific way with a small group of people who were single or married. All of these individuals had experienced trauma in their childhood, and had consciously / unconsciously used their trauma as a driver to become successful in their careers.
Some single clients wanted to focus on romantic relationships and we explored how their emotional neglect or physical abuse in childhood was directly linked to their lack of success in meeting someone who was healthy for them. A program was developed for this.
Those who were married and felt disconnected from their spouse and adrift in their life, we explored the direct correlation between these things and what they learned in their childhood about themselves and their relationships with the primary care givers in their life i.e. The Reconnect Therapy Program™.
Graduates of The Reconnect Therapy Program™ say they feel more connected to themselves and their spouses. They are more loving to themselves.
They have healthier relationships with others, including their parents, and are now skilled in setting and honoring boundaries so they’re not taken advantage of in any situation.
Graduates say that their life has been transformed through this curriculum of training, psychotherapy, self-parenting and childhood trauma therapy.
They report that, while they are more deeply connected to their romantic partners than ever, they no longer feel responsible for each others’ personal happiness, and they know what they need to do for themselves and their inner child to be happy and fulfilled.
Nina, Married & Mother to a 5yr-old
I was so sad for many years and I didn't know I was sad. I was so faint, not taking up any space in the marriage or in my world, I had no idea I was like this. I think more of myself now, I really value myself, I feel that I deserve certain things, my view of myself has totally changed. The views, including those of my parents are irrelevant now. The biggest thing is I respect myself and know I deserve certain things.
You Are Invited to Start Your Own Work.
I invite you to open up to this work. You know that this stuff isn’t going away, no matter how much you try to push it away or distract yourself.
Allow yourself the opportunity to finally heal the source of what’s been keeping you stuck and unfulfilled.
Your inner child simply needs love, safety, and reparenting. Once you know how to do this… everything will change for you.
I invite you to step into The Reconnect Therapy Program™ it will transform you for the better.
Using HATCH™, a system developed by Jeraline to help you work holistically through your childhood trauma and difficulties with relationships.
The program includes relationship psychotherapy, various trauma therapy models to address inner child work and start you on the journey to heal the trauma you experienced in your early life. Relationship scripts, narrative therapy, reparenting therapy, boundaries, values, intimacy and conflict management training.
Below is a summary of just some of the things we will cover in your weekly 60-minute session online over our thirteen months of working together. In these 58 sessions, depending on what you present that week, we will sometimes be covering more than two themes per session, i.e. inner child in addition to boundaries and relationship scripts.
Childhood Trauma psychotherapy which includes:
Sessions to meet your inner child.
1-to-1 coaching to love, support and listen to your inner child so it feels safe.
Reflection sessions on what the child tells us and how to integrate this into your life.
Sessions to meet your inner parent.
1-to-1 coaching to love, support and listen to your parent so your inner child feels safe.
1-to-1 Re-parenting your child coaching so you know how to look after yourself in any given situation.
Reflection sessions on what the parents tells us and how to integrate this into your life.
Self-Reparenting Therapy which includes:
Relationship Psychotherapy which includes:
Sessions to understand how your key relationships with your primary caretakers and familial unit impacts on your relationships in the present day and how to let go of toxic unconscious behaviours.
A safe and impartial space to discuss what's going on presently in your life and how it relates to your inner child. We will also explore what's wounded you and made you voiceless in specific situations.
Understanding your relationship scripts, connection and love styles and why these may be causing you difficulties and how to become healthy in your connection style.
We will also bring to light the aspects of yourself that you try to keep hidden, deny or find undesirable which impact on your behaviour towards yourself and others.
Trauma Therapy which includes:
Sessions to understand and work through your past trauma so you can start to feel more stable in your adult life.
An safe space to deal with the loss of your childhood, so you can let go of your trauma and create a new sense of who you authentically are.
Therapy for self-esteem which includes:
We will explore those things that impact on your self-esteem and ability to be assertive in your relationships.
Training courses & Coaching:
1-to-1 training in boundaries, we will also identify your boundaries, language these boundaries and you will be coached to set your boundaries in real life situations.
1-to-1 training in values, we will also discover your values and identify who you really want to be.
1-to-1 relationship coaching so you can have a better relationship with yourself, understand the dynamics in your friendships, romantic and, familial relationships, improve your communication skills and feel more connected to your partner.
1-to-1 coaching in conflict management and how to manage this in your relationships and understand how your partner does conflict.
1-to-1 training in closeness, we will work through any issues you have with vulnerability with your partner and identify the safest way for you to feel connected to your spouse.
1-to-1 secret training that will help you with any limiting beliefs you may have about yourself which are remnants from past abuse in your childhood, and support you to see that true success is rooted in who you are and not what you do.
The Reconnect Therapy Program™ Toolkit, which contains all the physical material you will need for this program (sent to UK clients only).
WORKING WITH JERALINE
This program is intensive and requires deep work from you, love, kindness and patience. It’s aimed to help give voice to the child in you who has been neglected by it’s parents or primary caretaker, and does not trust anyone including you.
The program will also support you as an adult to understand what needs to be in place for you to have healthy relationships with everyone in your world.
It’s time your inner-child thrives, it’s time to let go of its trauma, it’s time to forgive and in doing so you will experience the safety, freedom, joy, peace and unconditional love you wanted to experience as a child.
It’s time to let go of the dusty box, once and for all.
Please get in contact for the fee.
Different payment options available.
Kim, Banking, Married 12 Years
This therapy is not talking therapy. It's a journey of questioning and guidance that I couldn't have done just by talking. This therapy is transformational. Other therapy allowed me to offload and not do anything deeper. I feel like the person I would have been if I had healthy parents and a safe home. I have changed the direction of my life, my child's life and possibly the relationship I am in.
I'm looking forward to working alongside you. Love + kindness. Jeraline